my grandma has cancer and she is dying. i am not sure how i can comfort her or myself. she lives next door to us and i have to watch her loose weight, adn hair. i dont know what to sa to her. my life hasnt been easy. i have had to deal with many deaths. but she is my only grandparent left. im only 15. help...
Editor's Note: There isn't a one-size-fits-all solution to your situation. Some people in your grandmother's situation acknowledge what is happening and are able to talk about it, while others are more in denial about it. This goes the same for people in your situation, or your parents situation. The reality and permanentness of death is extremely hard to talk about it is extremely painful to contemplate. However, we all will die someday. It is a part of life - the last part of it.
If you and your grandmother are up (and only you can know if that is the case) for it, it could be a good idea to talk about what is happening. It is certainly a good idea to communicate to your grandmother how much you love and value her, showing her that with words and with actions. Time is short - that is the message of death - and you won't necessarily have the opportunity to do later what you cannot find a way to do today. Love doesn't overcome death, but it is a vital part of what makes life worth living during the time you spend living.
You may want to read through our Death and Dying and Grief topic centers - there is a lot of good information contained therein which you may find helpful.
Fear Of Death Essay
Death it is something we all must face at one point in our lives or another. It is either a death of a loved one, friend or co-worker. Sometimes it’s the devastation from a natural disaster. No matter what makes us face the idea of death it is how we handle this realization that truly matters. When Gilgamesh is faced with the horrendous loss of his dear friend and comrade Enkidu he begins to fear death. In Gilgamesh’s youth he is proud without fear of death, it is not until he watches his friend die that his own mortality becomes a fear.
The story begins showing Gilgamesh as a strong warrior as shown when he first meets Enkidu who wants to stop Gilgamesh from having relations with a woman on her wedding night. “They grappled each other, holding fast like wrestlers, They shattered the doorpost, the wall shook…They grappled each other at the door to the wedding, They fought in the street, the public square…It was Gilgamesh who knelt for the pin, his foot on the ground” (23). This shows that Gilgamesh is strong and is not afraid to fight. Here the reader is unable to see if he fears death but he faces a challenge head on. This shows a lack of fear of the unknown in regards to a fight. He is sure of himself and knows that he will win regardless of his opponent. As we read further we are told about Gilgamesh wanting to go into to the forest to kill the monster Humbaba. As he and Enkidu are preparing for the fight Enkidu speaks of his concerns in which Gilgamesh responds with “Here you are, even you, afraid of death…If I fall on the way, I’ll establish my name: ‘Gilgamesh, who joined battle with fierce Humbaba’”(26) this gives the idea that Gilgamesh is accepting to death at this point. He is not afraid of death because of the way he will be looked at in history. This adds to his confidence by allowing us to understand that he has no fear because he is open to legend he will become if he dies during this quest. Later when Gilgamesh is told by the elders that the quest is technically his death warrant he laughs and says “I am afraid” (28) this showing that he does not fear death at this point in time. When they finally reach Humbaba they begin to fight when Gilgamesh states “Forget about death” (39) here we see that Gilgamesh is saying death is not an issue. They are there to fight and not worry about the consequences even if it is death. Towards the end of the battle Humbaba realizes he will lose and begins to beg for mercy. He pleads with Gilgamesh to spare his life while Enkidu tells him to finish him off. When Gilgamesh finally decides to carry out with the orginal plan Humbaba cures them both saying “May the pair of them never reach old age” (43) this is basically saying may they day at a young age. At this point Gilgamesh does not seem to be shaken with the words of Humbaba and finishes him off. After this battle Gilgamesh offends Ishtar by refusing her prosal, she then convinces the Bull of Heaven to go after them. ...
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